My word have I let my people down. Not keeping up to speed on their dose of psych.
All the same here is this weeks greatest. Enjoy.
Whether you like it or not, your clothing communicates — and it can have a serious effect on your ability to achieve success.
“Let’s be clear: In the big picture of ultimate reality, what you wear neither defines who you are as a person nor determines your value as a human being,” says Darlene Price, president of Well Said, Inc., and author of “Well Said! Presentations and Conversations That Get Results.” “However, in the temporal realm of mere mortals, fair or not, people judge us by the way we look and that includes the way we dress.” Especially in the workplace, clothing significantly influences how others perceive you and how they respond toward you, she says.
Research shows that your appearance strongly influences other people’s perception of your financial success, authority, trustworthiness, intelligence, and suitability for hire or promotion.
And, because perception is often reality, what you wear not only communicates who you are in the minds of others, but also influences your level of career advancement.
Research has also found that when you combine your appearance with communication skills, not only is others’ perception of you affected, but their behavior toward you is also influenced. “Clothing plus communication skills determine whether or not others will comply with your request, trust you with information, give you access to decision makers, pay you a certain salary or fee for contracted business, hire you, or purchase your products and services,” she says.
Here are seven tips to ensure your clothing has a positive impact on your success:
Don’t show too much skin. That means no short skirts, strapless tops, or shoes that barely cover your feet.
Never wear dirty clothes. This seems obvious — but plenty of people think they can get away with wearing that dirty shirt just one more time before bringing it to the dry cleaners. News flash: You can’t.
Don’t wear wrinkled clothing. Heard of an iron? Use it. You’ll look neat and way more put together.
Wear clothes that fit you well. “Tailoring is a simple way to make clothes way more flattering,” writes BI’s retail editor Ashley Lutz.
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Don’t overdo it on the makeup or jewelry.
She says it’ll give you a polished look, and those around you will perceive you differently. So, stay away from clothing that is too tight or too baggy.
Always follow the dress code (or dress one step above). Don’t understand dress codes? Read about them here and here.
Wear appropriate shoes and accessories. Don’t wear jewelry that is too flashy or obnoxious — and always wear comfortable shoes that are appropriate for work. Also, if you wear makeup, don’t overdo it!
Don’t wear shorts. In some workplaces it’s perfectly acceptable for women and men to wear shorts. But, if you really want to portray yourself as a professional, steer clear.
“To achieve career advancement, avoid an unprofessional image that may enslave your career to others’ misperceptions,” Price says. “Instead, choose clothing that accurately reflects your credibility and ensures you ‘sell for what you’re worth.’ Make sure your ‘exterior’ earns you a ‘silent recommendation. ”
Clothes make the man.Naked people have little or no influence on society ~Mark Twain
Perhaps you’ve heard the following:
“The days of wearing a suit are gone.”
“Casual Friday? It’s casual week around here. No one cares how you dress.”
“Appearances are irrelevant, only results matter.”
All of these statements ignore the fact that people have and will continue to judge you by your appearance.The harsh reality is that we make decisions about people within the first 3 seconds of meeting them; we then spend the next 90 seconds trying to confirm our first impressions.This means that before you even open your mouth you’ve been sized up and profiled. Knowing this, a person should always dress neatly, professionally, and appropriately.The fact is you never know who you are going to meet; at anytime you may run into a potential client, a future employer, or for those singles out there, the love of your life. And like it or not, they are going to form their initial impression of you based off of how you look.
Over the next few months I’m going to be writing quite a few articles on men’s style and grooming.But before getting started, I wanted to make the case for why you should care about your personal appearance.We live in a society that overall tends to dress down; our national uniform is a pair of jeans and t-shirt.If you care about your appearance and take action to improve it, you will stand out from the crowd.But that’s not a bad thing.
How Your Personal Appearance Affects You
The transformation effect
One of the powers of clothing is that it can transform an individual’s state of mind. Dress like a professional businessman and you’re more likely to act like a professional businessman. Taking a test soon? Students report that they perform better when they dress-up for an exam.Feeling sick in the morning? Women have used the power of dressing-up to shrug off sickness for years.The transformative effect is powerful and instantly effective; what’s most amazing is that so few people use it.
Dressing professionally improves self discipline
From the Roman Legion to the United States Marine Corps, the world’s finest militaries have known that sharp dressed soldiers are more disciplined than ragtag militias.Military dress inspections have persisted not because shiny boots win wars, but because the exercise teaches a military force to pay attention to the details. And it’s in the details that battles are won.
In the same way, a person who dresses professionally learns the value of self discipline.They learn that planning and allotting enough time are paramount for consistent results.They prepare for the day by thinking through it, anticipating their needs, and taking the proper steps to ensure they can meet the challenge. A disciplined dresser can arrange his outfit to meet his needs from 8AM to midnight, from office to presentation to drinks after work.
Appreciation and respect
Properly clothing yourself takes time; shirts need to be ironed, shoes shined, and jackets brushed.Perhaps the greatest lesson this teaches is to respect the effort put forth by our fellow human beings.When you meet another well dressed man you give him an extra measure of respect because of his outfit; you notice the perfect dimple in his tie and appreciate it because it took you 15 minutes and 5 attempts to perfect your own. Mutual respect between gentleman is garnered when they recognize the efforts each has put forth.
How Your Appearance Affects Others
The power of visuals
Numerous communication studies have demonstrated the power of visuals in human interaction.Some studies have shown that visual cues are 3X to 5X as powerful as audio cues.With clothing covering 90% of your body, it can’t be stressed enough as to how important a role it plays in how you are perceived by others.Want faster & better service in a restaurant?Look like you have money and wear a navy blazer.Want to increase your chances for an A on a college presentation? Wear a sports jacket and pair of slacks.Want instant credibility in a business environment?Wear a suit when making the pitch or meeting with management.
Made within a few seconds, first impressions are powerful and should not be taken lightly. We often observe a person before we speak with them, and being human we look to make sense of what our eyes are showing us.Using our personal experiences, we categorize individuals; we pick-up on a key feature that has meaning to us and then associate that person with it. If what you are wearing is doing all the talking for you, make sure it is sending the message you want.
The power of colors and patterns
Colors and patterns are very powerful; certain ones grab our attention, some accentuate our natural tones, and others affect our emotions.When choosing colors and patterns a man should first understand which ones work for him and which ones do not.Next, he needs to determine what message he wants to send.A man decked out in a pin-striped navy blue suit, blue shirt with white contrasting collar and cuffs, and a red tie screams power and authority.A man wearing a solid brown suit with an earth tone shirt and light colored tie signals trust and openness.Both men were wearing suits, but two very different messages were being conveyed.
Influence and authority
Former San Francisco 49er Coach Mike Nolan fought to wear a business suit on the sidelines during football games.One of the reasons for this was that he wanted to make it easy to spot the man in charge.The men’s suit, whose heritage stems from military garb, was designed to highlight a man’s strengths.When cut properly and made with a fabric that compliments the wearer, it signals authority and commands attention. But this is only the tip of the iceberg – a policeman’s uniform, an airline pilot’s clothing, a doctor’s white jacket – all of these garments assure us that the person we are dealing with is an authority in their field.
Well dressed people are given a leg up in many respects – they are often perceived as being smarter, funnier, and more enjoyable to be around.Taking this a step further, dressing professionally can help you appear more important to the success of your company and may even help you hold onto your job.Assuming all other factors being even, who does management let go – the technician who dresses well and can be put in front of a client or the guy who doesn’t own a suit.In this current economic downturn, every small detail matters.
A few examples of manly men who cared and continue to care about their appearance:
Dwayne Wade – Does an excellent wearing suits cut to compliment his height; he also is very good at coordinating his pocket squares with his ties
Winston Churchill – He loved the “puff” pocket square and knew how to wear a polka dot bow tie.
Sean Combs – P. Diddy has modernized classic style for a whole generation of young men.He wears a 3-piece suit masterfully, and pays homage to the great dressers before him. His clothes add to his commanding presence and charismatic personality.
Ronald Reagan – Always dressed smartly in clean cut power suits that accentuated his shoulders; he also loved cuff links.
You shouldn’t judge a book by its cover, but in our fast paced society a book’s cover can be just as important as its content.Of course appearances are not everything; you have to perform well to succeed.But in a competitive world it pays to understand the importance of your clothing and grooming. Investing the proper resources into your personal presentation will multiply your ability to succeed.
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