Yesterday I was with bae; that’s right I was pulled out of the market. Her best friend possed for me a question, “where do your kind hamg around or can be found. Reason been, she wants to achieve big but afraid that she might get a guy who will derail me.
Better yet this is to her.
It is a logical thing to do. Believe you will get the dream guy the alpha male and all.
Getting a guy is the first big test of your networking abilities. If you’re really well networked, like George Percy, then you can look around at who you know and who your friends know and pick someone.
If you go the networking route, the same rules of networking for a getting a job apply to networking to get a spouse. Which means that the most valuable people in your network are people who you are not that close to because those people will likely know a bunch of people who you don’t already know.
3. Use a Relationship Mentor.
You only get what you are worth. You’re an eight so get an eight.
Have three criteria and meet them. Spend time developing a perfect list of the three things.
4. Go to therapy.
You know, those fairy tales about having three wishes aren’t really about the wishes. They’re about learning what’s important to you. (Sylvester and the Magic Pebble is a fun, contemporary take on this story.) The fairy tales are about the power of self-knowledge, and how hard it is to come by.
Which is really what dating is all about. You have to give stuff up to get married. Picking a spouse is a lot like picking a location—it’s not about what you get, it’s about what you give up. You have to be really clear on what you are not willing to give up—because you’ll probably be giving up everything else. You have to assume you are. And it’s hard.
Most of adult life is about admitting what you will not be able to have or be able to do. Marriage is no exception. If you can’t accept that, going to therapy can help—you get stuck otherwise. Which wouldn’t be so bad if you don’t want kids. But stalled dating under the tick-tock of a biological clock is no good for anyone.
The Luxury King